How to find security in a changing world

In a world that is constantly changing, adapting to new circumstances can be very difficult. Gone are the days of working a single job for 40 years, retiring and having your safe pension come in every month. The world our parents lived in looked very different from the one we see today. After the economic crash in 2008, political instabilities rising all around the world and the planet heating up, having the feeling of security is no longer a luxury we can indulge.

The question remains: how do we deal with it? Can we stop it?  

I have some good and some bad news for you. Let me start by giving you the latter first: you cannot stop the world from changing, it’s impossible. 

Ok, now that we got that out of the way, let’s look at the bright side :-) 

With every change that comes, opportunity follows. The opportunity to start something new, learn, grow and expand your horizon is waiting for you. 

Many of us want to hang on to the things we know as much as we can and at all costs! Why? Human beings seek safety as fundamental basic right. Change, for most, comes with a great deal of uncertainty and is therefore naturally avoided. Therefore, don’t beat yourself up if you struggle to overcome challenging your comfort zone because it has been passed down from our ancestors (fight vs. flight). But please don’t take this as an excuse to not expand your comfort zone! 

 Where will this world go?

Where will this world go?

After I had experienced my first major disruption of comfort during my 6 months stay at a boarding school in South Africa, I started to see change, not as something painful but rather as an exciting way to learn. The more I learned about the fascinating nature of change, the more I wanted to share what I discovered. 

My 2 ways of getting comfortable with change

 

1) Giving up the illusion of control.

Many times we give way too much energy to something that we can ultimately not change. Are you worried about the future or still angry about the past? Think about it, both past and future do not really exist because the only time that ever only will is the present. Whatever happened in the past is done, you can now either change the way you look at it and resolve it or stay there and give away your power over something that is long gone. But what about the future? If you could change the future and have full control over it, boy...do I wanna know your secret! However, I’m pretty sure you can’t. You see, if you have no control over something, the only healthy choice is to do your very best and have faith in the way it turns out. If it doesn’t work, learn from it, grow and improve next time.

2) Life exists outside of your comfort zone, embrace it!

If you keep repeating what you know and do what you always do, chances are high you stay where you have always been. You will be living into an almost certainly pre-determined future. Small things will always change but if you are looking to expand your life and truly experience excitement, fun, and beauty, you have to do something new. Going all out and taking risks can be scary but it is the only way to see what you are truly capable of. Most importantly, change does not mean losing what you already have but rather enhancing it. 

In the end, change is inevitable, it is the only constant in life. Our species has gone through major shifts and changes and yet we have always prevailed. There are many more problems that require solutions and as Albert Einstein said: “we can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them”. Adapting to a changing environment is the one thing that has set us apart from other living beings on this planet. 

I believe life is about learning, creating new experiences to enrich your life beyond measure. Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable will lead to rewards in all areas of life. The choice is yours, my friends, take the leap!

Much love,

Mario

How To Deal With Bad Days

Do you ever get that feeling in the morning when you wake up and just don’t feel like doing anything? No motivation to work on that project and certainly no energy to go to the gym even though you promised yourself the night before. Maybe you are going through a tough time and can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. We’ve all been there...

So what do you do when things are not going your way?

Do it like Bob Marley said, “don’t worry, be happy”? 

 My happy place, Cape Town :-)

My happy place, Cape Town :-)

Everything in life has a purpose, not only the good days but also the bad. They are a reflection of what you carry inside and convey the message on how to take your life to the next level. However, it is important to remember that bad days do have an expiration date and staying there for too long can cause some serious harm. 

So let’s take a closer look on how to get out of them!

Acknowledgement

The very first thing you need to do when you’re having a bad day is to acknowledge yourself realize that it’s ok to feel this way. Too often I see people talk about positive thinking and how the world will suddenly be transformed if you flood your brain with wishful thinking. Personally, I don’t think we are holy angels who s**t rainbows all day long. Every positive emotion also has an opposite negative emotion. Why is that? Because it allows us to explore the depths of ourselves and embody who we truly are - darkness/light, Ying/Yang, positive/negative…call it what you like but essentially we are talking about the same thing. Once you get over the self-punishment and stop looking for what is wrong, you make way for a path of self-healing and development. 

Example: If your goal is to get ripped & build muscle in the gym, you first need to work through pain & struggle. Every time you go to the gym and increase the weights, your muscles will hurt for a while and recover. When they do, they get stronger and build more endurance. Do you know anyone who says “oh no my muscles hurt, I will die, HELP” Didn’t think so either…The same happens in life. You feel like crap, hit rock bottom and rise again, stronger than ever before! It is the struggle that allows us to grow and appreciate the beauty in life. 

Gratitude

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions.The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for” Zig Ziglar

Bad days often come from feeling that we are missing something: “I’m not good enough, I’m not thin enough, I don’t have enough money, etc.” When we cultivate a feeling of lack, we open the pathway to a variety of negative emotions. Gratitude, on the other hand, will shift your focus away from what is missing to what you already have. Can’t find a reason? How about the fact that you have a roof over your head, food on your plate every single day and access to clean water? There are 663 Million people without access to safe water and 2.4 billion people without access to improved sanitation (clean toilets)

Make a list of 10 things you are grateful for and read this list twice every day (morning/evening). If you happen to find yourself in a bad day, take out the list and focus on gratitude until your focus starts to shift. 

Exercise

"Failing to exercise when you feel bad is like explicitly not taking an aspirin when your head hurts. That's the time you get the payoff." By far one of the best things you can do to clear your mind from the negative clutter is working out! Getting out of your head and feeling your body sweat will not only help shift your focus but also give you a well-deserved boost in the happy hormone department called endorphins. These little bad-boys (in a good way) help you release stress and reduce pain. Next time you are having a bad day, go for a run, pump some iron or book a session with your local Yoga guru!

We all go through tough times and sometimes all we need is someone who really listens to us. If you don’t have that someone in your life, shoot me an email and I will gladly listen and share more info on how I get over my bad days. You can reach me at info@powerin.me.

Much love,

Mario 

How to be Yourself

From the moment we are born, society has been trying to put us into a system that offers a “one-size-fits-all” approach. In school, we were taught not to make mistakes because those were punished by bad grades and embarrassment. The kids that look, talk and think differently are usually the ones that end up being bullied so they quickly think something is wrong with them. The very thought of trying something different is quickly beaten out of our kids at a very young age and it stays there until the moment we close our eyes again… 

When everyone is just trying to fit in, how can I really be my true self? 

Well, understanding that it takes time and involves a process of unlearning a lot of the bs that you have been taught is certainly a step in the right direction.

First and foremost you need to accept yourself for who you are, right here, right now. Stop obsessing about being perfect because not a single person on this planet ever was or ever will be perfect. Accepting yourself goes hand in hand with knowing yourself. Many, many moons ago it was written on the temple of Apollo at Delphi “Know thyself” 

What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? What’s your story? What are your goals?

I still remember the days where I just wanted to make everyone else happy and proud of myself. It was more important to me what other people thought rather than what I truly believe was right for me. Mario: One day, I will be an actor in Hollywood and win an Oscar for being freaking awesome! Other people: Weeelllll, there are actors around every corner, how are you going to make a living. Mario: Ok fine, I’ll find something else that pays good money (that didn’t go well #ups)...

 Just being me :-)

Just being me :-)

After many failures and disappointments, I started looking deeper inside of me and decided to put myself first! So what if other people disapprove? Heck, there are people on this planet that don’t like Gandhi or Jesus so why worry about the opinions of other people!? Yes, family is very important and without mine, I would not be here writing this from the heart to you.

Speaking of which…dear parents, I get it, you only want the best for your children - you want to see them happy! But happiness doesn’t come from having a great job, following the father’s footsteps or earning a lot of money. In fact, I believe it stems from making your own decisions, failing, learning, failing, learning and finally understanding what it really is that we want out of life. The best advice I can give you is to love no matter what, support every dream as much as you can and be there when your children need you. 

Being yourself also means embracing yourself with all the flaws and imperfections. Welcoming constructive criticism that gives you an insight of the things you do and say without being aware of it. I used to roll over people like a German WW2 tank because my ego commanded me to be right all the time! That worked out really well in my relationships (not so much). When you have to be right all the time, it doesn’t allow for new inputs or ways of thinking. My ego is still a big challenge in my life but we get along better these days as I have learned to accept the help of others as a valuable contribution to my life. Talk to people and openly seek the conversation to better yourself but be careful not to engage with toxic people

And now, you little beautiful, wonderful, magnificent rock star…I got some news for you:

You are a miracle of creation, you come from the same source of which all the planets, all the stars, and all the galaxies originate. In this whole wide world, there is no one and I mean no one with the same genetical mixture. You are unique, you are special, you are loved and you deserve to shine in your glorious light. Don’t allow anyone to tell you differently. Within you, there is a power that could help change our world for the better. Trust in yourself even when no one else does because you are here for a reason!

Just like Goethe said, “As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” 

Stop putting yourself down. Make yourself a priority before anyone else in this life. This doesn’t come from an egotistical point of view but rather from understanding that it is crucial to take care of yourself first. If you are not at your best, how do you expect to help other people with their challenges?

Think about the all-time classic: what do airlines tell you when the oxygen mask drops? Pull it over YOUR face FIRST and then help others! If you try to be the super hero, you may end up being unconscious and fall on the kid next to you…so much for helping others. 

Being yourself may sound easy but it is a path back to your true self. Letting go of trying to control everything that is happening around you will make a huge difference.

After all, life is a journey and we are supposed to enjoy the time we have.  

Much love,

Mario

Change your story, change your life!

Why is that some of the most successful people in life often go through the worst nightmares? Here are just a few:

Oprah Winfrey:  abused and molested as a child 

Tony Robbins: his mother abused him and chased him out of the house with a knife at age 17

J.K. Rowling: depressed, broke and divorced as single mother

Steve Jobs: kicked out of his own company at age 30, left depressed and devastated 

While I’m by no means anywhere close to those people in terms of monetary success, I also went through depression and wanted to kill myself. At the time, I hated my life but today I look back and am very thankful for this experience (more about this later).

So what’s the difference between these great leaders and the rest of us? Despite failure, rejection and many more adverse situations, these people have always persisted. 

If you start doing a little research, you will find that all of them have something in common. 

It is the way they look at themselves and the things that happen to them. Take for example the all-time classic of the glass filled with water. Is it half empty or half full? Both statements are objectively correct but there is one significant difference in the way we look at the glass. When the glass is half empty, we look at it from a perspective of lack (there is not enough water) and/or fear (I’m running out of water). This is a rather disempowering meaning we give to the glass. If however, we look at the glass as half full, the meaning completely changes. The prevailing thoughts will be abundance and a feeling of confidence (there is enough water). It may seem like a small unimportant change but when applied to all areas of life, a transformation will happen! 

 Courtesy of @secrets2succes

Courtesy of @secrets2succes

Our brain has a powerful tool called the Reticular Activating System (RAS) that allows you to focus on certain things at a time. Consider it a switch. Whenever you think of something with enough intensity and duration, your focus will follow. Did you ever fall in love with a particular car or outfit and kept on looking at it on the internet? Chances are, you will start to see this car or outfit in real life much more often. It’s not like these things magically appear out of nowhere but rather that your brain is conditioned to see it. Suddenly you start to notice things that weren’t there before and this works beautifully with everything else in your life.

Going back to the glass. When you view the glass as half full, you are more likely to have a positive outlook on life. What happens when you have a more positive outlook? You start to see opportunities that were not there before! All because you switched your focus towards a more empowering meaning.

Tragedies, losses & failures are a natural part of life. Whether you are the most successful entrepreneur or a beggar in the streets, they will happen. The only (and significant) difference is the way you look at these things. We are not in control of WHAT happens in life but we are in control of HOW we view these events. The glass could be a certain type of person, maybe you think that all men are assholes because someone treated you like that in the past. In a moment you will form your story about that type of person and immediately make up a meaning like “men are assholes” or “all men just want sex”. Something you may want to look at if your dating life isn't working.

Ultimately, this creates the story that is running your life. Think about it, we do this with everything on a consistent basis. We create so many stories that dictate our lives when all we have to do is change the meaning of that story. How would the story change if you showed compassion and understanding towards the guy who treated you badly? What kind of empowering meaning could you give difficult times of your past? 

When I changed the meaning of my failed career as a pilot, I started to see it as something that would empower me. A learning experience that prepared me for even more challenging times ahead. No longer do I focus on the pain and hardship but the immeasurable value of experience. Today, I’m very grateful for it because it helped me find my path to fulfillment & happiness. 

In the end, we carry the pen that writes our lives story. You can always go back and change the meaning to live a life of empowerment. 

As Dr. Wayne Dyer said,

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.

Take control of your life and discover The Power In You by changing the meaning of the story.

 

Much love,

Mario  

Toxic People

Have you ever been stung by a jellyfish? I have and It hurts a LOT. When the poison makes its way into your blood system, your nervous system alarms the brain and translates that into pain. 

Now, people don't really sting you and also don't have any hidden poison to inject into your body. Unless you are Jellyman. (@Marvel let me know if you are interested in my idea) 

So why am I making this reference? Because some people have something that is much more painful and in comparison to the jellyfish, it takes much longer for the "poison" to affect you. 

What happens when you have toxic people in your life and who are those people anyway? Toxic people are those who feel good when you are down, who try to put you down when you are happy, who drain your energy with their negative mindset. These people are unhappy with their lives and project their problems onto everyone else but themselves. I'm not saying they are terrible human beings because they must be in a lot of pain in order to be so miserable. What I am saying though is that you should get as far away from them as you can! Some of you may think "oh this is so harsh, I could never do that". I would argue that you naturally pick up the habits of toxic people. Complaining, bitching, making excuses, gossiping...all of which is a secure path to suffering, pain, and failure. So ask yourself "what do I really want in life?".

 Don't be that person...

Don't be that person...

I was raised in a regular neighborhood in Germany, nothing fancy, nothing terrible. My friends and I had a great time causing trouble whenever we could. We had no desire to study or do something that would benefit our future because we were just having fun. Unfortunately, today I see many of them struggling in life: lack of education, jobless and dealing with a lot of stress. Some of them even went so far to end up in prison...

Many years I have asked myself why this didn't happen to me. I wasn't a better human being or was gifted with some special ability.

Instead, I realized there was a turning point in my life and that was my first time abroad in South Africa. In 2006 I went to a boarding school and my life completely changed. Getting up every morning at 6, dressing in a suit and strict rules completely transformed my perspective. At the time I hated being there and tried to fight against it whenever I could. But today I see that it was a significant turning point. After I returned to Germany, I no longer felt the need to just hang out and do nothing meaningful all day long. I became hungry! I wanted to find out how far I could go and push myself to new limits. 

Soon after my return I stopped hanging out with most of my old friends and got to know new people that challenged my way of thinking. Not many people are so fortunate to go through a turn in their lives and remain in the same toxic environment. 

So what can you do??? 

Luckily there is the Internet! If you don't have those super successful and positive people in your life, start reading books, listening to podcasts, etc. The more you change your environment and specifically the people you hang out with, the faster your life will change! I listen to empowering content every single day.

Seriously, stop wasting your time with people that are draining your energy. It's not your duty to clean up their mental shit. It's not your fault and you definitely deserve better. What if your family members are toxic people? Well...that's very hard, I get it. However, it doesn't change the fact that they might put you down and stop you from becoming the person you are supposed to be: a truly awesome kick-ass power player! Maybe a trip to another country can help and when you come back you inspire them to stop being miserable all the god damn time.

Ultimately, your habits decide where you end up in life. If you want to get the body of your dreams and build that 18 pack, munching chips every day won't do the job. In this case, I would strongly recommend to hang out with people that are highly involved with healthy nutrition and working out. Slowly but surely you will pick up their habits and drop those extra layers of Nutella.

Remember what Jim Rohn said:

"You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with". 

The billionaire and the beggar both have 24 hours in a day. It's how and with whom you choose to spend that time. Separate yourself from toxic people and reach out to a new circle of empowering and positive people. Find the person that will see the solution and not the problem!

Did you have similar experiences? How did you deal with it? Let me know in the comments 🙌🏼

Much love,

Mario 

Wake up!

Terror seems to have swept over the world and spread fear across many cultures. Corrupt politicians, false leaders, and fake celebrities are on the cover of news outlets. Dying oceans, forests vanishing and the very air we breath is being heavily polluted. What a terrible world we live in!

With all this horror happening day after day, what can we do as individuals? Can we really make a difference? 

Go and vote for the right leader they say. Pay your taxes and get a job that pays the bills. On the weekend you get to watch sports games, movies and party till you pass out. Come Monday, you press repeat.

Our parents tell us to get good grades in school, study and then get a job that pays good money. We all have dreams and think to ourselves "one day I'm going to do it". But in school we were taught not to make mistakes, in fact, we were punished with bad grades and to make matters worse, society seems to judge us depending on those grades. When fear is installed in our brain at a very young age, we don't really question it anymore as life makes its way. We think "I could never do this" or "that's impossible"

All hope seems to be lost...if only someone would come to change this! 

Well, that someone is here and always has been..YOU

 Picture by:  John Holcroft

Picture by: John Holcroft

Welcome to the matrix! Welcome to the world of manipulation. The world where we have forgotten how much power we as people really have. Most of us have become obedient sheep waiting for so called leaders to change the world we live in today. 

You may say "oh, but how is this my fault, I didn't vote for that guy and I don't have anything against this group of people"

It requires people with incredible hatred in their hearts to do the things we see in the world...BUT it also requires the vast majority of us to look the other way. We tolerate all the bad as we are so busy striving to make money, buy lots of stuff we don't need and consume foods that carry no nutritional value...all while crippling the very source of life as we know it - earth. 

Ok. Enough with the negative, let's take a deeeeeep breath... Waking up to the reality of life does not have to be a scary experience, quite on the contrary. Understanding that we give corporations, politicians and false idols all their power is the key. You can make a difference as an individual and here are 3 things you can do right now that will have a major effect on all of us.

Plant-based diets

It is no secret that animal agriculture is one of the single biggest contributors to global warming, deforestation, water pollution and species extinction. Did you know that it takes about 660 gallons to make a single hamburger??? That is the same as showering for 2 months nonstop! I used to be a meat-eating machine and loved my steaks more than anything else. Today I live on a plant based diet and have never felt better. I'm not asking you to immediately give up your meat & dairy but limiting both and focusing on plants, fruits, nuts, etc. will make a great impact on your health and the environment. Just by this switch in your diet you help our planet and don't need to wait for laws and regulations to change. 

Empowerment

This is most likely the biggest of the three. When you become the best version of yourself and lead by example, people will automatically follow. It's a harder road, it may take more time and the way will be plastered with failure...but it's worth every step of the way. Stand for your values, develop your consciousness and commit to the things you really want to accomplish in life. When you embody your true self, you will experience a whole new world and inspire the people around you to do the same.

Don't focus on hate

In today's world, attention means money. The more hits a news website gets, the more money it makes (generally speaking). Media spreading disempowering news and even fake news help get more views and lead to more people buying into a reality of fear and limitation. Just think about it, when have you ever watched the news and thought "wooow, what a beautiful world we live in, I really feel like I can make a difference"? Not so much I guess. Guide your attention towards organizations, people, and companies that promote good in the world. Volunteer in your community and focus on solutions rather than problems. 

 

Despite all of this, I have great faith in humanity. We cry, we laugh, we fail and we succeed. That's what we all do! Whether you are a poor or rich person, you mean something in this world. Your actions just like your in-actions make a difference and together we can create a world for all of us.

With all my heart, I believe in you.

The power to change this world for the better of all mankind is within YOU!

 

Much love,

Mario

Forgiveness

Why is it that our past has such a powerful impact on us? A moment long gone that still troubles us today. Why do we hold on to grudges when we know it doesn’t do us any good? When we look at the greatest teachers of humanity we can find that they all share the same message:

Letting go of the past is essential for peace of mind and happiness. 

Yet, so many of us settle for pain and sorrow we experienced in our past. Essentially we are reliving the past over and over again. 

It is like carrying around 200 pounds of extra weight. Try to enjoy where you are, with the people you love, when you are constantly reminded of something that happened in your past. Actively listening to someone becomes almost impossible when you carry all of this weight. And when you don't listen, you miss out on the beauty of life.

I used to think that forgiving someone for their wrong-doings means allowing them to get away because they would certainly not learn from this. In the end, I would come out as the loser and my ego did not like the taste of that. My way of fighting back was not to forgive because after all why would that person not do all of this again to me or someone else? 

Not forgiving also means finding the negative in everything that person does. Even if that person is trying very hard or has already improved, our grudges keep reminding us to look for the fault…and we are really good at finding it! Before trying to move on, learn to forgive first.

Forgiving someone does not mean their actions are justified but rather demonstrating empathy and willingness to let go!

The key to forgiving other people lies within you. Before you truly forgive someone else, you need to take a close look inside. Have you forgiven yourself? Are you still beating yourself up for not being perfect or not being where you should be by now? 

It took me many years to finally forgive myself for not being the best of the best. I would always question my abilities and try to find a fault. Achieved one goal and realised I still wasn’t happy; getting more was my mantra. 

When I let go of all the grudges I was holding inside, I found that forgiving others was suddenly much easier. 

By being empathic with myself and acknowledging that my progress takes time, I dropped those 200 extra pounds of weight in no time! 

The difficulty of showing empathy for others is that we often don’t see the whole truth. We pick up bits and pieces and our mind creates a big story about what happened. Your best friend may have said something that really hurt you and at that point, you decided she or he is no longer trustworthy. But have you considered what’s REALLY going on with your friend? Maybe that friend is facing a very tough time and is afraid to talk about it (even with you). And here you are judging and jumping to conclusions. Could this be a cry for help?

 The truth lies deep within

The truth lies deep within

Remember this: Not forgiving someone means giving others control over your emotions. It means you are tolerating this negative feeling because you are giving away your power and that leads to mental poisoning over time. 

Forgiveness and ultimately trust, both require being courageous. I understand how difficult this can be, especially if people screw you over and over again. But in the end, it frees us from the grudges we carry every day. After I made peace with myself and the people that did me wrong, life started becoming so much more beautiful

I don’t believe people are evil by nature, we go through life and our circumstances so often dictate our future. However, we are all human beings, we make mistakes, we all want to mean something in this world and our cry for attention can make us invisible because we loose sight of who we really are. 

Committing to a bright future where you can achieve your goals and dreams begins with leaving behind the grudges that don’t serve you. It can be scary, it can be difficult, but if you want to change your future, start by practicing forgiveness. 

How are you dealing with this topic? Have you forgiven and now feel better?

Your feedback and remarks are most welcome, please share them in the comments.

Much love,

Mario

Finding your Passion

School is finally over, done, freedom! The world with its unlimited possibilities is waiting for you. Time to do what you always wanted to do - follow your passion!

But wait…I don’t have a passion - shit! Everybody is always talking about following your passion, do what you love until the rest of your days. Only I don’t know what my passion is!!!

Sounds familiar? One of the most preached topics in all self-development books talks about following your passion in life. Steve Jobs spoke about it in his famous Stanford Commencement Speech. Type “how to find your passion” into Google and you will find over 29 million results!

So many successful entrepreneurs and CEO’s all tell the same story about finding your passion and doing what you love. So why is it so damn difficult to find? And what’s wrong with you anyways since you haven’t found it yet? The answer - there is nothing wrong with you and it takes a step by step approach.

When I think back to all the things I did before starting this website and helping people discover their fullest potential, I have to laugh. 

Here are some of the things I did in my life:

  • Waiter in my parent’s restaurant for 7 years
  • Worked in sales for a fashion label 
  • Maintained and transported luxury cars throughout Germany (I drove a Lamborghini - my knees are still shivering!) 
  • Maintained the garden at home (I hated it)
  • Interned for local radio station 
  • Created my own parties 
  • Event management 
  • Promoted random crappy flyers (this was actually fun)
  • Had my own business on the Xmas market selling Himalayan Sea Salt in minus 15 degrees Celsius (America, please jump on the metric train, thx)
  • Online marketing for sports betting sites 
  • and many more things

Was any of these my one true passion? No, not even close. In fact, I only started getting a big hint when I failed really hard in life and went through a serious depression. It was then when I listened to audio tapes by motivational speakers and devoured all their books that I noticed something. I thought to myself “I can do this too, I can talk to people and help them lift up their spirits because I had experienced all of this first-hand”. One of the first things I did was to look for speaking clubs. I found the biggest club in the world: Toastmasters. This was the beginning of my passion.

When I think back to all the different jobs, there is one thing that separates me from many people and I don’t say this to brag. Whatever I did, I did it with all my heart. Mainly because I always wanted to be the best and my ego couldn’t deal with less but I was also very curious to see how far I could push myself. Many of the things ended up being a dead end but I was always able to learn something. Whenever you give your very best, doors will start to open, opportunities will start to appear and you will see things in a very different light. Why? Because the people you work with will see your effort and (in most cases) take you to a new level. You may discover then and there that this is not for you but at least you came to that realization after having given it your best. 

You are not born with a passion and it is certainly not delivered on a silver platter. How cool would it be if you could just call the ministry of passion

"Yeah, Hi this is Mario. Can you tell me my passion? Sure, your passion is designing toilet paper. Oh, thx. You're welcome, bye" 

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Source: http://clutterbug.me/

 

So how do you find your passion? Here are my 3 simple steps to follow.

 

1. Don’t freak out! 

Calm down, relax, drink some hot tea but don’t stress out because you haven’t found your passion yet. If someone has found their passion and they are all hyped about, great, good for them but this has NOTHING to do with you. If you are constantly stressing about not having found your passion, you are setting up a big, fat roadblock. Whenever you catch yourself doing that, affirm that you will get there in your own time. This is a learning process and the journey (as always) is more important than the goal.

2. Bring passion to the task

Whatever you do in life, give it your very best. Be the first one in the office and the last one to leave. Do more work than what you have been paid for. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you are all in without complaining every minute. Once you mastered a craft you will start to see results and that is fun. We all like fun things and out of fun things passion can arise. 

3. Take risks

How can you ever test your limits without taking a risk? Your limitations only exist in your comfort zone and so does the not existing passion. Sometimes we just have to take that leap and trust that it will all be ok. Your challenges will expand your capabilities and that feels f***ing great!!

Still not feeling it? Let me know in the comments and I will share more insights :-).

There is something inside of you that is waiting to come out in all of its beauty, it’s time we unleash The Power in You!

Much love,

Mario 

The Power of The Mind

Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right.”. When I first read these words I didn't have a clue what he meant. Does this mean I'm always right and everyone else is wrong? Ha! I knew it all along...but then why haven't I replaced Brad Pitt yet (I envisioned being him in my early 20s) - bummer. 

Watching The Secret in Cape Town made me think about this statement for quite a while until I finally began to understand. My thoughts create my own reality because it is based on what I believe. These beliefs ultimately shape the world in front of me. If I believe that nobody loves me and the world we live in is a hostile and fearful place…well, it doesn’t take a scientist to figure out how likely I’m going to find love, connection, and happiness - not very much!

"I could never do that, that's impossible, it's not worth trying after all, too risky" were the dominant thoughts I had after coming out of a depression. Overcoming that negative mindset was quite challenging but I was so fed up with feeling sorry, so I allowed myself no more excuses. It was time to try something new and practice what I said I would do. The first week or so felt kind of weird because I kept reaffirming positive beliefs such as "I can do this, I'm powerful and blessed by the universe, etc.". The Law of Attraction (stated in The Secret) basically says that whatever you focus on, will manifest in your life, both positive and negative. In addition to these powerful affirmations, I starting reading self-development books and listened to motivational tapes by the one and only Les Brown. I'll name my favorite books at the end of this post. 

The mind is like a muscle and it grows with whatever you feed it, whether you do it consciously or not. For example, watching TV and the news with all the negative bs will program your mind for a limited, scared and isolated way of thinking. Most of the mainstream media is not interested in showing you the beautiful things in this world but rather what makes money. Remember the saying "if it bleeds, it leads". Don't be fooled, these are massive corporations that have no interest in your wellbeing. If you start your morning with everything that is going wrong in this world, how likely are you to feel positive thoughts as you set out for the day? In fact, your morning routine is arguably the most crucial factor to your personal success (remember: success is what YOU make of it, not what other people are trying to dictate you)

Evolution has equipped us with an insanely powerful organ, the brain. Worrying about the future or dwelling in the past can cause you physical pain and increase your cortisol level (also known as stress hormone). Our brain will create a reality based on what we feed it and the astonishing thing, it can not determine whether something is happening right now or not. Think about it, we are suffering from things we cannot change: the past that is long gone and a future that may never come Into being! As you can see, your body will do what the brain tells it to do, so be very mindful of your thoughts and beliefs. 

 Too much Zen in one picture

Too much Zen in one picture

I’m very careful with whom I surround myself and what I feed my brain because I like being in a state of peace, harmony, and happiness. Now, this doesn’t mean that I’m always like that and every single day is all happy clappy. Yet, whenever I feel down or unhappy, I focus on the things that I’m grateful for. If your mind is filled with gratitude, there is no space for anger or stress.

To sum up, I highly recommend watching movies like The Secret (even though you may not agree with everything) and reading as many empowering books as you can. This is the one thing that has helped me in all areas of life and continues to make a major difference! If you want lasting change in your life, better relationships, more freedom, happiness and much more...start by changing your mind.Affirmations work but that's only a small portion of the long way to a fulfilled life. It takes much more than that.

Taking control over your mind before it takes control over you is the key that you always carry in your hand. Start using it and discover the real Power In You!

Much love,

Mario

P.S.: You can't solve your problems with the same mindset so try out some of these books.

Think & Grow Rich, The Alchemist (all-time favorite ), Man’s Search For Meaning, The Law Of Divine Compensation, Chicken Soup For The Soul