Have you ever been stung by a jellyfish? I have and It hurts a LOT. When the poison makes its way into your blood system, your nervous system alarms the brain and translates that into pain.
Now, people don't really sting you and also don't have any hidden poison to inject into your body. Unless you are Jellyman. (@Marvel let me know if you are interested in my idea)
So why am I making this reference? Because some people have something that is much more painful and in comparison to the jellyfish, it takes much longer for the "poison" to affect you.
What happens when you have toxic people in your life and who are those people anyway? Toxic people are those who feel good when you are down, who try to put you down when you are happy, who drain your energy with their negative mindset. These people are unhappy with their lives and project their problems onto everyone else but themselves. I'm not saying they are terrible human beings because they must be in a lot of pain in order to be so miserable. What I am saying though is that you should get as far away from them as you can! Some of you may think "oh this is so harsh, I could never do that". I would argue that you naturally pick up the habits of toxic people. Complaining, bitching, making excuses, gossiping...all of which is a secure path to suffering, pain, and failure. So ask yourself "what do I really want in life?".
I was raised in a regular neighborhood in Germany, nothing fancy, nothing terrible. My friends and I had a great time causing trouble whenever we could. We had no desire to study or do something that would benefit our future because we were just having fun. Unfortunately, today I see many of them struggling in life: lack of education, jobless and dealing with a lot of stress. Some of them even went so far to end up in prison...
Many years I have asked myself why this didn't happen to me. I wasn't a better human being or was gifted with some special ability.
Instead, I realized there was a turning point in my life and that was my first time abroad in South Africa. In 2006 I went to a boarding school and my life completely changed. Getting up every morning at 6, dressing in a suit and strict rules completely transformed my perspective. At the time I hated being there and tried to fight against it whenever I could. But today I see that it was a significant turning point. After I returned to Germany, I no longer felt the need to just hang out and do nothing meaningful all day long. I became hungry! I wanted to find out how far I could go and push myself to new limits.
Soon after my return I stopped hanging out with most of my old friends and got to know new people that challenged my way of thinking. Not many people are so fortunate to go through a turn in their lives and remain in the same toxic environment.
So what can you do???
Luckily there is the Internet! If you don't have those super successful and positive people in your life, start reading books, listening to podcasts, etc. The more you change your environment and specifically the people you hang out with, the faster your life will change! I listen to empowering content every single day.
Seriously, stop wasting your time with people that are draining your energy. It's not your duty to clean up their mental shit. It's not your fault and you definitely deserve better. What if your family members are toxic people? Well...that's very hard, I get it. However, it doesn't change the fact that they might put you down and stop you from becoming the person you are supposed to be: a truly awesome kick-ass power player! Maybe a trip to another country can help and when you come back you inspire them to stop being miserable all the god damn time.
Ultimately, your habits decide where you end up in life. If you want to get the body of your dreams and build that 18 pack, munching chips every day won't do the job. In this case, I would strongly recommend to hang out with people that are highly involved with healthy nutrition and working out. Slowly but surely you will pick up their habits and drop those extra layers of Nutella.
Remember what Jim Rohn said:
"You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with".
The billionaire and the beggar both have 24 hours in a day. It's how and with whom you choose to spend that time. Separate yourself from toxic people and reach out to a new circle of empowering and positive people. Find the person that will see the solution and not the problem!
Did you have similar experiences? How did you deal with it? Let me know in the comments 🙌🏼