Do you ever get that feeling in the morning when you wake up and just don’t feel like doing anything? No motivation to work on that project and certainly no energy to go to the gym even though you promised yourself the night before. Maybe you are going through a tough time and can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. We’ve all been there...
So what do you do when things are not going your way?
Do it like Bob Marley said, “don’t worry, be happy”?
Everything in life has a purpose, not only the good days but also the bad. They are a reflection of what you carry inside and convey the message on how to take your life to the next level. However, it is important to remember that bad days do have an expiration date and staying there for too long can cause some serious harm.
So let’s take a closer look on how to get out of them!
The very first thing you need to do when you’re having a bad day is to acknowledge yourself realize that it’s ok to feel this way. Too often I see people talk about positive thinking and how the world will suddenly be transformed if you flood your brain with wishful thinking. Personally, I don’t think we are holy angels who s**t rainbows all day long. Every positive emotion also has an opposite negative emotion. Why is that? Because it allows us to explore the depths of ourselves and embody who we truly are - darkness/light, Ying/Yang, positive/negative…call it what you like but essentially we are talking about the same thing. Once you get over the self-punishment and stop looking for what is wrong, you make way for a path of self-healing and development.
Example: If your goal is to get ripped & build muscle in the gym, you first need to work through pain & struggle. Every time you go to the gym and increase the weights, your muscles will hurt for a while and recover. When they do, they get stronger and build more endurance. Do you know anyone who says “oh no my muscles hurt, I will die, HELP” Didn’t think so either…The same happens in life. You feel like crap, hit rock bottom and rise again, stronger than ever before! It is the struggle that allows us to grow and appreciate the beauty in life.
“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions.The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for” Zig Ziglar
Bad days often come from feeling that we are missing something: “I’m not good enough, I’m not thin enough, I don’t have enough money, etc.” When we cultivate a feeling of lack, we open the pathway to a variety of negative emotions. Gratitude, on the other hand, will shift your focus away from what is missing to what you already have. Can’t find a reason? How about the fact that you have a roof over your head, food on your plate every single day and access to clean water? There are 663 Million people without access to safe water and 2.4 billion people without access to improved sanitation (clean toilets).
Make a list of 10 things you are grateful for and read this list twice every day (morning/evening). If you happen to find yourself in a bad day, take out the list and focus on gratitude until your focus starts to shift.
"Failing to exercise when you feel bad is like explicitly not taking an aspirin when your head hurts. That's the time you get the payoff." By far one of the best things you can do to clear your mind from the negative clutter is working out! Getting out of your head and feeling your body sweat will not only help shift your focus but also give you a well-deserved boost in the happy hormone department called endorphins. These little bad-boys (in a good way) help you release stress and reduce pain. Next time you are having a bad day, go for a run, pump some iron or book a session with your local Yoga guru!
We all go through tough times and sometimes all we need is someone who really listens to us. If you don’t have that someone in your life, shoot me an email and I will gladly listen and share more info on how I get over my bad days. You can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org.